Mental health is generally an uncomfortable topic of conversation for many people. That’s usually because they don’t know how to express themselves, or the person they’re talking to is pathetically dim-witted. And somehow, that’s brought you here. Buckle up folks, because shit’s about to get interesting. It’s disturbing to realise just how much smack I’ve personally seen and heard spoken about mental health. It’s as if people really don’t realise just how important it is. Too many times have I witnessed the words “men shouldn’t cry,” or “she was asking for it”. Simple words have the most tragic effects. So, that’s where I come in, to unpack at least some of the truth and teach the ignorant a lesson; if their words can cut deep into someone’s mind, why can’t mine?
Before this really starts, I’m gonna be completely honest and tell you that while I was writing some of this piece, I was sitting alone in my room with the blinds closed, with tears running down my face. I couldn’t tell you how or why I found myself in this situation, because I don’t even know myself. I’m saying this as a heads up; the people closest to you could be suffering in the space of their own minds. They could smile all the time, or be the person who seems like they have their whole life together, and yet still be slowly breaking down inside. I’ve never been this open before, but if I’m going to write a piece that grasps at the hearts and minds of readers, then I can’t be selfish and expect a few arguments to win you over. So do yourself and your loved ones a favour, talk to them. If they are uncomfortable, wait. It’s always nice knowing you have someone in your corner when you feel like the whole world is fighting against you.
I suppose we should get into this then, huh? Well, I would personally love to talk about the one thing that is progressively corrupting the world’s view on the mental health conversation: social media and entertainment. Now don’t get me wrong, many shows and movies, as well as people across media platforms, are brave enough to show the real impacts that the mind has on a person. In many cases we are able to gauge an authentic perspective on the topic, which hopefully gives us insight into dealing with our own problems and not being a dickhead to those who are struggling psychologically. However, there’s a certain line that should never be crossed. So why the fuck are people romaticising mental illness? It is not “tragically beautiful”, nor is it trendy or some kind of heavenly aesthetic. It’s real, and it hurts, and it’s not something that people take pride in. This twisted representation creates a distorted image of mental health, which makes it so much harder for people that are actually suffering. These problems don’t just disappear when you fall madly in love, nor do they make people feel special and unique. It’s a disgrace to suggest that mental illness is idealistic, or that it isn’t as much of a burden as it really is (YOU are not a burden, remember that). I can only imagine how people must feel to see something that they internally struggle with used as a cliche plot device. So the next time you try to find the light in mental illness, turn it into some praised trait that you long for, or comment with an insensitive joke, remember that you’re part of the problem.
I hope you’ve realised by now that this is a serious topic. If you haven’t, keep reading. If you have, well then, you’ve read this far, so why stop now? Another major problem we face when understanding the depths of mental health are how different generations and society in general has recognised it. Today, we are more educated on the subject, but sometimes that isn’t enough. There may be times when people with distorted views try to undermine the way you’re feeling, either by saying mental illness simply doesn’t exist, or by invalidating your feelings. The truth is, whether or not you deem another person’s situation worse than yours, your own feelings are still, and always will be, valid. Whilst it’s slowly becoming more apparent, we have to continue to dissociate ourselves with the social stereotypes surrounding the mental health discussion. Whether that’s the idea that it is a weakness, or the predetermined gender roles within mental health, we have to work together to change that. We have to be brave enough to stand up to the people who look down on the matter. They could be your parents, your friends, or your partner, but that doesn’t change the fact that you can try to do something to educate them. Do your part to make your environment a safer space for yourself and others. And if you just so happen to be one of those people who don’t fully understand (or can’t be bothered to), I hope I’ve been able to change your perspective in even the smallest of ways.
I want to finish this off talking about mental health as a student. There might come a time when you feel stuck. You might be passing your classes, maybe scored a hot date, or even gotten a really cool job. However, there might be this lingering thought constantly swirling around that makes you feel inadequate despite what you have achieved or are aiming to achieve. You may feel lost, stuck in your own body with nowhere to run. You are not alone. Even if you can’t put into words exactly how you’re feeling, or you can’t determine why it is that you’re feeling this way, don’t ever feel like you aren’t enough. Perhaps these words won’t help, but if I can give any sort of encouragement or comfort then that’s exactly what I’m here to do. I wholeheartedly urge you to not compare your situation to those around you; we’re all different. We don’t share the same experiences and thoughts with those around us (we’re not androids, despite how much Elon Musk wants to destr- uh sorry, change the world). Your feelings are always valid. The University offers services to guide you through these times. If you aren’t particularly fond of talking to a stranger, try to confide in someone or something you trust until you find yourself ready to take the next step into leading a healthier life. And do me a favour, will you? The next time someone tries to talk down to you about mental health, put them in their place. If you’re the antagonist in this story, I suggest you think long and hard about why you’re in that position; maybe you too just need someone who’ll listen…
But if you’re genuinely just a piece of shit, get ready to catch some hands.
