Anonymous: To date or not to date during uni? That is the question.  

Nexus: This is an incredibly valid thing to consider. The answer, really, depends on the person and what you find out about yourself by evaluating. What is most important to you, and will you be able to achieve it and feel fulfilled? Do you feel like you can balance the commitment of being in a relationship and studying? If you have other things you will prioritize that leave very little room for a healthy relationship (which is ok, but be honest with yourself), then dating might not be a good idea. It can also depend on what kind of relationship you’re looking for, serious or casual, and whether you have the time to commit to it. All in all, it sounds cliche to follow your heart but that’s part of what you have to do, along with using your head. You will figure out what’s best for you, and hey, if it doesn’t work out somewhere along the line, that’s ok too.   

Anonymous: How to deal with my flat mate’s partner staying over every night and not contributing?  

Nexus: This can be quite a complicated scenario, especially because every situation is different and every person can react differently, but the best thing you can do is to communicate with your flat mate. Explain to them in a time and place that is right for them. If it applies, try to use “I feel” statements rather than making them sound like an accusation. For example, you can say something like “I feel a lot of financial pressure to provide for guests” rather than “having your partner here all the time means we have to pay for more groceries” etc. Also try giving achievable suggestions such as “when your partner stays over are they able to bring some extra supplies/ money?”  

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