They tell you the best part about ‘study life’ is partying every night. While socialising yourself with your new Uni friends is important, it’s fucking hard. I’m sure we’ve all gotten ourselves into the situation where you agree to go to a party because you didn’t know how to say no, or you were feeling particularly social when you said yes. But now that it comes down to actually going, you have regrets. All you extroverted people out there will have no idea what I’m talking about but for us introverts hiding in a corner wondering if that one person we spoke to a few times is an acceptable person to spark conversation with, this advice is going to save you the next time you find yourself at a party.

Before we begin the real advice, firstly I say: don’t go! There’s nothing worse than being stuck at a party you don’t want to be at, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with saying no. Do not bide into peer pressure, that shit is so 2020. However, if you want to make friends, extend your circle, or just have a fun night here is some actually serious, helpful advice.

In case you came alone or with an equally as introverted friend, it’s best to bite the bullet and start a conversation as soon as you can. The more you sit and wait to try to build the courage to talk to someone, the harder it’s going to be. Though it’s terrifying, it’ll pay off. Find a familiar face and ask them how they are. Even better, if someone you know is talking to someone you don’t know, join the conversation and boom, you’ve made a new friend for the night.

With partying comes alcohol. If you are the type of person to get more anxious the more you drink, lay off the beers a bit for the night. On the other hand, if alcohol is your liquid courage, then have a few to take the edge off before the party or in the early stages of the night.

It’s important to mention, not everyone is going to be a friend. It is not your fault if someone you try to talk to is being an asshole, they are simply just an ass. If you aren’t vibing with the conversation, find a new person to talk to. The dicks at the party are not worth your time.

Leaving the most important piece of advice for last, have an out. If you aren’t feeling it, or something goes wayward, have someone to call to get you out of there asap. Whether your ‘out’ is a pre-arranged excuse or a good ole Irish Goodbye, having someone on speed dial to pick you up is a must. Being stuck at the party makes everything 1,000,000 times worse. Don’t wait for your other friends to be ready to leave, leave when you are ready to.

Hopefully you can survive your next party with my very, very, helpful advice. Take this advice with a grain of salt, listening to your body is the upmost important piece of advice someone can give. But, put yourself out of your comfort zone. You never know what could happen and what cool people you could meet.